My weight is out of control and now my sex drive’s gone and I’m sleeping on the sofa

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE always been large but my weight is out of control. Getting fat is the worst thing that’s happened to me.

I’m a big-boned man of 47. My wife’s a good cook but I snack all the time and I have done for years.

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I’ll open the fridge between meals or I’ll stop at the bakers and buy a cake or a pie.

My clothes are too tight to look good but buying new XXL gear is the pits. I’ve given up nights down the pub as I don’t like to be seen.

My sex drive has gone so I sleep on the sofa downstairs.

I don’t know what to do as whenever I diet I just put on more weight.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Do not despair. Ask your wife to go with you to see your GP. Get weighed and get your blood-pressure and cholesterol tested – then hear your doctor’s advice.

It isn’t a diet you need but a change to your daily routine.

Pack the fridge with healthy snacks like carrot sticks, and always have some with you when you’re out. Never eat factory-prepared meals. Your taste buds will change.

Get out with your wife for a daily walk or a swim.

My e-leaflet End Weight Worries will help too.

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